Counselor Frank Edem Adofoli has chronicled a long piece which is meant to probe the minds of individuals who have plans to marry more than a woman.
Coming from the buzz that Nollywood actor Yul Edochie has gotten married to his baby mama in addition to his first wife, Counselor Frank Edem Adofoli’s stance according to the research is profound on the topic of polygamy.
Here is how Frank Edem Adofoli put it.
“God’s first and model marriage was not Polygamy but Monogamy. He gave Eve to Adam, one woman and not women. Adam had a wife and not wives. God had the power to give as many wives as possible to Adam if that was what He needed. (Genesis 2:21-23).
Those who mention Abraham, David, Solomon, etc need to know, that these are men and not God. The first person who introduced Polygamy to this world is Lamech, a descendant of Cain. He married Adah and Zillah (Genesis 4).
Many other people practice polygamy including devotees to God but one thing we should not forget is that these people learnt this kind or type of marriage from Lamech. So, before you mention people in the Bible who practice Polygamy, don’t forget to mention whom they learnt it from.
It was not God. Polygamy is not from God. It’s not God’s idea for marriage or how God wants marriage to be.
For those who use the Abraham story as an excuse, the wife asked him to take a second wife for the purpose of procreation which wasn’t God’s plan for him. In the case of David, he inherited Saul’s wives to take care of them. They were widows and there is no evidence in scripture that David had physical sxual relations with them (2 Samuel 12:8 (NASB).
A wife is not just an object for sxual satisfaction or someone who needs a place to sleep or who needs to be provided for. A wife is a helpmate, a companion. The men who think when they get money it becomes okay to acquire more women in the name of wives, are wrong. Women need to be respected.
God knew how destructive polygamy can be to men so He warned the kings against having many wives. “He shall not multiply wives for himself, or else his heart will turn away; nor shall he greatly increase silver and gold for himself.” – Deuteronomy 17:17 (NASB).
It is true there are more women than men in the world, that does not mean God does not know what He is doing with mankind. Don’t help God for God does not need your help. You need God’s help to be able to control your desires so your money won’t lead you to destruction.
An African man is not polygamous, African man’s problem is how to control his sxual desires.
There are many women who are or want to become nuns or what you call Roman Sisters and other women who are not interested in getting married so please don’t use the high number of women as to men as an excuse to do what God has not approved.
You don’t need to read it in the scripture, in black and white before you know Polygamy is not God’s idea. Again, there are many behaviours which may not seem sinful but are destructive to us. Examples are overeating, overdrinking, etc. Over-wifey can also be destructive.
Abraham had his own share of trouble with two wives, Jacob, had his, don’t wish to be added. It’s my prayer that someone finds sense, not an insult, in this write up.”